We all reach those points in our life when real change occurs. We reach the points when our tomorrows will be better because we are not just capable of change, but we are suddenly willing to change.
Willingness to change
For me, change occurs when I realize that my life is self-created. My life is determined by not only what I am willing to do but also it is determined by what I am willing to put up with.
Only when you reach that precious point of accountability, that point when you know you are responsible for any and all situations, can you find what is wrong and fix it.
Do you need to leave your job, end a relationship, eat healthier, exercise, or create great habits? The question isn’t if these things should be done or if you are physically capable, but rather the question is, “Are you willing to do it?”
What price are you willing to pay?
If you want to make a million dollars this year then what are you willing to do? Is it possible for an able-bodied man or woman to bring a million dollars into their life? Absolutely.
The question is not if it is possible. Rather, the question is what are you willing to do? Are you willing to work 80 hours a week? Are you willing to give up your days off? Are you willing to get the education you need? Are you willing to do the things that others are not?
When you ask yourself if you are willing then you are demanding of yourself an answer. The answer may be no and that’s okay. If you think that you want one million dollars this year, then ask yourself if you are willing to work 80 hours per week. If your answer is “no”, then it is time to reassess.
You can choose to not make one million dollars this year or you can choose to find a different approach. Either way, you are not living a dream world of victimhood or could-have-beens, but rather you are willing to take action in your current reality.
Give up the headspace of yearning for goals if you are unwilling to do what you know it will take. Are you willing to work an extra 10 hours a week so you can drive a nicer car? Is the sacrifice of 10 hours on your current pursuits worth that Escalade?
Your path to change begins with evaluating your goals and your willingness. Are you willing to get out of bed by 5 AM, cut out the television, or skip the night out with friends? If those things are important to you and very real to you in the moment, then the chance of you changing those habits is slim.
Focus on what is important to you and then measure your willingness to bring this thing into your life.
You can argue that procrastination is simply a form of unwillingness. When you have something that “needs” to be done and you are putting it off, it simply means that you are unwilling to pursue the task at this point in time. When you are unwilling to do something you “need” to do, then you consider the price too high for the payoff.
If you are living every day like the last and express that you are in total pain, what is it that you are unwilling to do to make a change? Dread of doing a task does not indicate your inability.
Are you choosing to stay where you are out of fear of the unknown? Are you unwilling to take action because you may fail? What is your reason behind your procrastination?
Unwillingness may be a good thing
When a door seems to close, maybe the closed door is not the problem, but perhaps maybe you see the door close because you are unwilling to do what it takes to keep it open.
Declaring that you are unwilling to do something is not always a bad thing. Maybe the door that suddenly shuts is the door to a relationship that no longer serves you. Perhaps you are unwilling to be treated like shit and you finally close the door on that relationship.
Are you willing to be overweight, poor, or with the wrong person? Unwillingness to put up with the bad will give you the ability to draw a line in the sand that you will not cross. This is the beginning to a change that sticks
Your willingness is the pathway to your truth. Willingness combined with mindful focus leads to your ultimate power. Intervene on behalf of yourself and focus on what you truly want in this life. Match your goals to the very things you are willing to do and success will follow
Frame your goals and obstacles as your level of willingness. You will break through all those previous self-imposed, unconscious barriers. Ask yourself today about each of your goals, “Am I willing?” Repeat until you confidently find your yeses.